How to Know What and When to Delegate

Have you also noticed that as an entrepreneur and a mother we easily get caught up in doing the same things over and over? We often let our old responsibilities become so engrained in our minds as what “needs to get done” that we just get into a routine to accomplish them.

Unfortunately, over time it can become more evident that you are outgrowing some of those responsibilities or chores. Some of the things you have always done become a waste of time and resources that can easily be delegated to others. Delegation is a skill set that a hear a lot my clients say they don’t think they can efficiently do. They have a fear of losing the control of their work quality and having to trust someone else to do something that they can do and do it as well as they would have.

Many of my clients have told me in the past that they simply don’t believe a leadership comes naturally to them. And, though this is a very understandable concern, it’s also one that proves consistently to be a non-issue. Of course, there are coaches out there (like me) that can and will happily help you to feel confident to grow into a leadership role.

You Already Know How to Lead

But what most of my clients fail to recognize or give themselves proper credit for is that as a mother, you are already a leader! You already successfully delegate things that need to get done to your spouse, your family, and your children. Chores that need done around the house like yard work, laundry, dinner planning and preparation are (hopefully) passed out evenly amongst the others around the house. As a mom, it probably just makes no sense to do everything on your own while everyone else sits watching TV. As as true as this is for your home, it is absolutely just as true for your business.

In order to reach the next level of productivity in your business you really need to consider reaching out and asking for the help you need. Once you determine what you need someone to do, it is also critical to ensure that you organize yourself and your needs so the help you do hire can be as effective as possible for you.

The beauty of having someone who wants to help you is you can rely on them to really step up and step in, just taking some of the easier tasks off your plate that are time consuming. And, as a bonus, just think about how much time delegation will actually give you to spend with your children (or friends, or sleeping).

Baby Steps to Delegation

And remember you don’t have to think on a enormous scale here, either. Think about simply hiring a part-time, capable virtual assistant. VAs can help with so much because of the blessing of new technology. Simple tasks that you spend considerable time on or busy work (think social media, bookkeeping, marketing or even just simple sales follow up for your webinars and program participants). In the long run, it takes so much less money to pay someone who is proficient and professional, particularly if you calculate how much time you spend on the tasks plus your hourly rate.

The fall season is a great time to take a step back and start considering some business areas where you can use some help. You still have time to get organized to implement and hire that out in 2017 and take some of your own time back! Not sure where to start? I can help you! Contact me today for your free Discovery Session.

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11 Steps To Owning Your Path

Owning your path. That sounds like a great idea, right? We’re all on a path, most of them winding, some quite crooked, with a fair amount of bumps along the way. But that path is ours, so let’s dig into what it means to really own it and how we can apply that to our businesses so that we are moving forward into our future with confidence and intent.

  1. VISION. Your vision is your focus—what your eyes are fixed on. Whatever you focus on you get more of. So adjust your focus to the positive, to what you hope for, to where you want to go.
  2. WHY. Things are going to get tough. Things are going to get messy. You’re going to get confused, distracted, discouraged. Knowing why you’re doing what you’re doing ensures that your motivation and inspiration to keep moving forward is coming from within, not based on all the external circumstances that you’re facing.
  3. CULTURE. Who you are, how you’ve done things up to this point, your habits, and your mindset are critical forces in determining the path you will choose. All these things come together to make you who you are. Embrace it!
  4. POSSIBILITIES. Don’t get trapped by a “But this is how I’ve always done it” mentality. Open yourself up to the world of possibilities that awaits you when you replace old habits that aren’t serving you with a mindset that says, “This is possible.”
  5. EXPERIENCE. Experience is the skills, knowledge, and expertise that you have acquired over the course of your life. Acknowledge your strengths, the things you are best at, and determine how you may use them going forward.
  6. COMMITMENTS. This is the “owning” part of owning your path. This is where you put a stake in the ground and declare, “It will be done because it matters to me!”
  7. PRACTICE. Practice is the opposite of perfectionism. It’s the opposite of fear. It is being willing to stink at something and keep trying until we get it right. Keep practicing!
  8. SUPPORT. Support is so critical to owning your path—both giving and receiving it. Get the help you need from others and invest time and energy into others to help them on their own paths.
  9. ACTION. This is where the rubber meets the road! Baby steps are still steps. Take action and make it happen!
  10. ACCOUNTABILITY. As internal as owning your path may seem, we need external drivers to keep us on track. Accountability is a good and necessary element of success, whether it is enlisting the guidance of a coach or simply checking in with a likeminded accountability buddy.
  11. CHOICE. This is all about your choice. It’s at the heart of everything. There is freedom in realizing that no one is making you do this, that this path you’re on is your choice, and that nobody can take away the success you find along the way because nobody but you has gotten you there.

I hope these tips help inspire you to really own your path. Do you have others you would add to the list? Let me know on Facebook!

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Get Real: When “Just” You is Just Enough

Get RealI think it’s fair to say that most of us either are now or started out as solopreneurs in our small businesses. If you’re not familiar with the term, simply put, we’re talking about a “company of one”—a company of one where YOU are the ONE. If you’ve been around MomBiz now for a while, you have probably heard me refer to you as being CEO of your company. Well, when you are a solopreneur, CEO stands for Chief Everything Officer! Now if we’re really honest with ourselves, most of us, at least in the beginning, try our best to obscure the fact that we’re “going it alone” from our market, prospective clients, and competition. I’d like to make an argument today for some compelling reasons to stop the madness and own up to the way things really are. I think the potential outcomes of authenticity just may surprise you.

 

Here are some signs you’re struggling with “just” being you.

 

Let’s go to your business website and take a look at two details. Answer these questions for me. Do you have an “About Me” page or an “About Us” page? How about your contact form? Does it promise to “Contact Me” or “Contact Us?” Use of the “royal we” is one of the main signs that authenticity is a challenge for you. Now if this is you, and you’re really identifying with what I’m saying here, there is no condemnation! When I created my very first website I used that royal we EVERYWHERE. I talked about myself as though I were multiple people. And certainly, I do juggle a lot of roles that can make me nearly schizophrenic at times. But it’s not real, is it? It’s not honest.

 

Why in the world do we do this?

 

If you’re using the royal we at every opportunity, chances are you may be concerned that you won’t be viewed as credible or professional or established enough in comparison to your competitors. First of all, let me tell you it is okay to feel that way. Of course you want to create an image that people can trust. Your motivation is spot-on. But let me remind you for a moment that creating that image—that not quite you image—is an action based on fear. And any time we make choices based on fear, crazy stuff happens. Bottom line is you are trying to be something you’re not, and in turn, the foundation you are building from is the self-limiting belief that you are not enough—not good enough, not worthy enough, not credible enough, not big enough. All of that is just fear talking. None of that is true.

 

Why it’s worth it to let your clients get to know the real you:

 

The real you is a lot more interesting than that image of what you think you should be. If you believe that about yourself, so will others. I invite you to just consider authenticity. Be enough. When you trust you, when you decide that you’re good enough, when you know you have something of value to offer… something kind of magical begins to happen. Your potential clients get to know you.   They like who you are. They trust you, because you’re someone like them. You’re real.

 

I love to hear from you, so leave me a comment!

 

Do you struggle with letting your market get to know the real you?

 

How can you demonstrate to others your faith in yourself that you are enough?

 

 

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Is It Time To Fire Your Client?

nightmareToday we’re going to talk just a little bit about an intriguing yet somewhat scary question that I think we all need to approach from time to time, for the health of our business and our sanity: “How do you know when it’s time to fire your client?” Now I’m sure the term “nightmare client” rings a certain bell with just about all small business owners, but where is that line between putting up with such a client in order to bring home a paycheck and taking a firm stand in defense of self-respect? If you’re a mompreneur who is allowing a nightmare client to ruin your enthusiasm for your work, it’s time to take a look at some key indicators of when it just may be a good time to fire that client.

1. If a client is constantly expanding his or her demands and requests to include milestones outside the scope of the project that you agreed to, effectively squeezing every drop of blood out of that turnip, aka YOU… it might be time to fire your client.

2. Another indicator that it may be time to fire your client is if he or she is totally dominating your time. It is 100% up to you, as the CEO (Chief Everything Officer) of your business, to manage your time and ensure that you have the variety and type of work you have set forth in your business plan. Own your time… and consider firing a client who insists on dominating it.

3. If your client refuses to observe your boundaries, it may be time to fire that client. Boundaries are so, So, SO important in the life of a mompreneur and essential to keeping your priorities straight while getting what you want out of your business.

4. Another nightmare client is one who makes you feel awkward, uneasy, subservient, undervalued or unappreciated. We’re doing what we love, ladies, and we want to know it matters! Getting paid by someone who treats you poorly is one of the most demoralizing situations we can get ourselves into.

5. Finally, it is almost always time to fire the client who doesn’t want to pay you what you’re worth or what they owe you. If you have set forth clear expectations of “Here is what I do. Here is what you can expect. Here is how much it costs” and at the end of the day they want to negotiate and renegotiate, constantly questioning what you’re worth, chances are this is not the best client for you. It’s time. Oh, it’s time.

So this is just a small sampling of the potential nightmare clients out there you may be dealing with. Sometimes just revisiting your boundaries and ensuring clear communication will be enough to turn things around… but sometimes what we really need to say is: “You’re fired!”

I love to hear from you so leave me a comment!
Have you ever fired a client?
Tell me about your most nightmarish client and how you dealt with them.

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What Mom Biz Retreat is REALLY All About

I just returned from hosting Mom Biz Retreat in Denver last weekend, and as usual when I experience something wonderful, I always want to share it with everyone I know.

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But I’ve been stuck for days trying to figure out how to summarize all that happened in that powerful weekend. I initially thought I’d write a sort of journal entry that touched on everything we did over the three nights and three days together. But telling you all about the amazing food we ate, the fantastic spa treatments we received, the powerful work sessions we had and the deep conversations that kept us up too late each night won’t capture the essence of the Retreat experience.

So let me pull back the curtain and tell you what really happens at the Mom Biz Retreat.

We are small.

There are so many live events out there that aim to be the most popular. They need 300, 500, or 1,000 attendees to consider themselves successful. Our mission is to provide an intimate, close-knit group of women who really get to know each other and reach out to support each other. We listen to each woman share her goals, her plans, her fears. We ask probing questions. We offer honest feedback. With a tiny group of women, no one can get lost or left out. We are able to hold each and every participant in the Retreats responsible for the goals she sets for herself for the weekend. We get things done.

We make a few confessions.

When girls gather, work together all day, then play together all evening, we tend to open up and share more than we would in a big group. Trusting bonds are formed. We see ourselves in each other. We understand how each other feels. We realize how some of our limiting beliefs are keeping us from being successful, from playing a bigger game, or from getting what we really want.

It’s amazing how freeing it can be to admit the limiting beliefs we have about ourselves, beliefs like:

  • “I really should just be happy with my corporate job since I make plenty of money.”
  • “I’m embarrassed about how much money I make because it means I’m working too much and neglecting my kids.”
  • “In my heart I want to help everybody, not just rich people, so I have to keep my fees low.”
  • “How can I call myself an expert when I don’t have a fraction of the clients, followers, or fans that x——— does?”
  • “Money is tight, so I have to keep doing work I hate in order to make ends meet.”
  • “I’m drowning in work right now, but I can’t outsource anything because it’s too hard to explain what I do.”

We make big plans.

Once we admit those scary beliefs that are keeping us down, we have the golden opportunity to let go of them and replace them with awesome, huge, inspiring beliefs. We encourage each other to try something we didn’t think we could. We ask each other to ask for more. We practice declaring who we are, what we do, who we serve and why it matters. We raise our rates and charge what we’re really worth. We ask for help in creating the support structures and systems that allow us to accomplish our dreams.

We leave empowered and confident.

We girls like to lift each other up. We like to help each other. How can you not feel more confident when you’ve shared your big, hairy, scary fears with a group of women business owners who have also shared theirs, and who still think you’re amazing anyway?

Shelagh and I have created the kind of event we want to attend ourselves. It’s an honor to get to spend a weekend amidst women committed to running a business and a family according to their own definition of success.

Is it time for you to let go of those limiting beliefs that are keeping you from achieving your goals? What could you do with a strong, honest, powerful network of women entrepreneurs who you know have your back? Grab your seat now before they’re all gone: www.mombizretreat.com and click on Ontario for the next Retreat coming up in September.

 

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Four Common Places We Get Stuck

Where are you getting stuck? Chances are, it’s in one of these four common pitfalls: research gathering, procrastination, the “bright shiny objects” syndrome, and negative self-talk. If you can distinguish that you’re stuck in one of these areas, then you have the choice to do something different.

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Where are you stuck? Do you identify with one of the pitfalls I described in this video, or are you doing something a little different? Please share your comments as well as tips for getting unstuck.

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How often does “no” mean “the end” for you?

It is totally human to get discouraged when something doesn’t go the way you want it to. Say you come up with an idea for the perfect getaway for you and your husband, and though it makes you sigh and get that faraway, relaxed look in your eyes when you discuss it, your hubby just hears the pricetag and the hassle of getting the kids cared for in order for you to be gone. “No,” he says. “Nuh-uh. Not happ’nin’.”

What do you do?

Well, Alisa Bowman of www.projecthappilyeverafter.com wrote a smart post about this topic today. Whether you’re letting a “no” cause you to stop in your relationship, in your pursuit of your dreams, or in your business deals, you are certainly missing out on some possibilities that exist for you if you’re willing to see no as a “detour” rather than the end.

Here’s the link to her post: http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/04/dont-take-no-for-an-answer/

What do you do when you hear “No!”? How do you keep from quitting, getting derailed, giving up or getting stuck?

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The Mom Biz Coach Live on Blog Talk Radio

Last Thursday I had a few minutes to spare at the end of my coaching office hours, so I decided to become a Blog Talk Radio show host.

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Yep, you read that correctly. My decision-making process was pretty much like: “Hmmm…This does look interesting. Others I trust think it’s the bomb. I guess I’ll do it.”

I’ve never hosted a radio show before.

I know next-to-nothing about Blog Talk Radio’s platform and how to utilize it effeciently.

But I set up a profile, gave my show a name, clicked a few times, and voila! Within minutes I became an internet radio show host.

Just for fun, I scheduled my first live broadcast for the next day. A few minutes before going live on the show, I dialed in on the “host line,” finished making a few bullet points about the topic I was covering (“The Top Mistakes Work at Home Moms Make”), and shortly thereafter hosted my very first Audio Blog on The Mom Biz Coach Blog Talk Radio Show.

What a hoot! I had no idea what I was doing beforehand. I didn’t wait until I had studied all the online tutorials that were offered. I didn’t research, ponder and analyze my topic and whether it was the best I could’ve chosen. And I didn’t write out a script to make sure I said everything perfectly.

Nope. I learn best by doing. I get things done by just doing them. I have a lot of fun this way, even though I am at certain risk of making mistakes. Sometimes I make really big mistakes that make me feel embarrassed for a while. Other times I enjoy myself in the moment, not putting too much pressure on myself to be perfect, and in those moments I’m usually happiest with who I am. Flaws/mistakes included.

If you’d like to listen in as I practice doing things I’ve never done before, I’ll be doing just that on Tuesday, 3/31/09 at 11:30 am ET. You can tune in by clicking http://www.blogtalkradio.com/MomBizCoach . I’m adding lots of new shows, so perhaps bookmark or make my show a favorite if you’d like to keep updated.

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Are you the parent you always wanted to be?

I’m gathering some information for an upcoming speaking engagement. I’m interested in learning how you feel about yourself as a parent. Right now, are you the parent you always wanted to be? If so, what wisdom or advice can you share with other parents? If not, what do you feel is keeping you from being your version of the “ideal” parent?

Please share your successes and struggles. What keeps you up at night? What do you most wish you could do/be for your children? What did you finally realize that made you satisfied with yourself?

All comments welcome!

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