The Definition Of Insanity

Albert Einstein Quote“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” ~Albert Einstein

 

Sounds simple enough. Even if it’s not completely insane, I think we can all agree that doing the same thing over and over again and expecting something different is at the very least… well, not very bright, right? But yet, I can speak for myself when I say that in business, and especially in motherhood, there have been times I know I’ve been certifiable, according to this definition of insanity! We’ve all been there. Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we waste our time repeating actions and patterns that don’t yield the results we want?

 

Let’s take a look at some of the common places in our lives that we could be exhibiting signs of insanity, according to the definition above.

 

  1. Are you struggling with your kids during the same time of day, day after day after day? Before school, dinnertime, bedtime—you know the drill! I refer to it as “the witching hour.” Whenever it is at your house, you dread it, because the same thing goes down every. single. day.

 

  1. Are you having the same argument with your spouse or partner over and over and over again? You know how this one plays out. There is a topic that always sets you or your partner off, without fail. Someone says the word, and it’s all downhill from there—you say this, he says that, and the end result is nothing short of predictable.

 

  1. Are you marketing and networking like crazy but still not getting the sales, new customers, or more money that you desperately need? You’re in massive action. I mean you are just out there making it happen. But it’s not producing the results you’re after.

 

  1. Are you having a hard time finding time for your own health and well-being, even though you claim it’s one of your top priorities? You can just never seem to get enough sleep. It is impossible to find time to exercise. Date nights or girls’ weekends are a thing of the past. These are all things that are important to you, but for some reason or another, they’re just not happening.

 

These four areas are very common pitfalls for us mompreneurs to get stuck in. These are the areas where we tend to compromise some of our best skills, talents, knowledge, and expertise, in favor of getting stuck in a rut of routine that simply doesn’t serve us. So ladies, it’s not really about insanity, is it? Look around you. Look at those kids around your ankles that will one day be great big teenagers. Look at that brand new business that could one day be an empire. Things change. We need to be ready to change along with them.

 

I love to hear from you, so leave me a comment!

 

In which area are you exhibiting signs of insanity?

 

What patterns, habits, or routines are no longer serving you?

 

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Are You Settling For Less Than You Deserve?

Are You Settling For Less Than You Deserve?“The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.” ~Maureen Dowd

Let’s talk about “settling.” Okay, truthfully, how many of you tensed up a little bit when you read that just now? We all do this in life, so it’s something we need to address. Why, when we deserve what we want, do we settle—put up with or tolerate—things that are less than ideal for us? We so easily adopt this perception that we don’t deserve exactly what it is that we want, or that what we already have is “good enough.” Now, I’m not speaking out against genuine contentment, but really ladies, there is a difference between being truly content and just putting up with circumstances that are unsatisfying or don’t serve us, and we know it!

Here are some common areas in which we have probably all struggled with settling at one point or another. Maybe this is you right now! If so, knowing really is half the battle, so be honest about where you are. That awareness will come in handy later, when we talk about why we settle and what to do about it.

Relationships. You may have talked yourself into believing you’re in a great relationship if most of the things you need are present, or even if some of the things you need are present, or let’s face it—even if you’re in any relationship at all, no matter how crummy it is. This is a place many of us have spent time tolerating behaviors or circumstances that are not satisfying, not empowering to us, and not adding to our happiness.

Jobs. This is another really common area, especially given today’s economy. So many are putting up with the jobs they currently have, regardless of how awful they are. People are working more, getting paid less, and job security is out the window. And yet, we continue to stay in the dead-end job, despite being terribly unsatisfied.

Routines. We’re mompreneurs. We signed up for two full time jobs when we decided we would raise tiny humans and birth our very own business, and we often have the crazy schedule to prove it! Girls, this is an area we must revisit often. Take a good, hard look at that routine of yours. Is it serving you?

These are just a few of the categories that we commonly struggle with settling in. Financial, spiritual, educational, health and wellness—these are all areas we can choose to settle for less than the best, aren’t they? It’s so critical that you spend some time in self-evaluation and really nail down where what you want isn’t quite matching up with what you’ve got. You deserve the best!

I love to hear from you, so leave me a comment!

In which category (or categories) do you find yourself struggling with settling?

What circumstances would satisfy you most in each of these areas?

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