How to Stay True to Your Family Priorities as a Mompreneur

Have you ever felt like though you are succeeding in business, you are not doing so well as a mother? This can be a very common issue for mompreneurs, and you are not alone.

As a business owner, you have probably set goals, timelines, and measurable metrics for where you want your business to go in the future. But, unfortunately, many of us don’t often do the same for motherhood.

Women who find success with how their businesses are going oftentimes realize after accomplishing their business dreams that they don’t feel successful with their families. There are so many pieces and dynamics at play when you are both a mother and a business owner. One of the biggest is that it is very easy to get caught up (and carried away) in business. Your business, clients and schedule have needs and demands that are right in front of you demanding your attention. You are always quoting a potential client, building a new sales funnel or keeping your many appointments each day. Your business has its own ways of keeping you accountable—we just don’t have those metrics to keep us accountable in motherhood.

Sometimes, even the best laid plans of “making time” (planning to work until 2pm, then have family time from 2pm-5pm) can be sent completely off the rails unexpectedly. Humans can be tricky. Especially humans of the smaller variety! They are sleepy, hungry, grumpy, or just plain fussy. When you make a plan and can’t stick to it for some reason, it can be very difficult for some of us to bounce back when the plans change unexpectedly. These changes can cause stress and unhappiness and, after a pattern of this, it can be tempting to get frustrated and stop trying to plan. You will find yourself drawn to focus more on your business because it is predictable and you are in control. You just feel happier and more relaxed when you make a plan and stick to it—and that’s generally easier with your business than with your family.

Here are the three things I recommend if you see this becoming a pattern for you:

1. You have to force yourself to put real metrics in place. Because we know that best laid plans don’t always work out; but having some plans and some routine helps. Help your children and family members know what to expect because it will help you have much greater chances of accomplishment.

2. Make a point to always minimize your business or work distractions during your allotted family time. Don’t allow yourself to zone out and just get on the internet or check your email “real quick”. Create a very real boundary between work and family time.

3. Plan ahead for quality time. Sit down, free from stress and distractions, and make a hit list of 5-10 quality activities you can do in just 30 minutes at a time (walk around block, going to open swim, craft time). Put things on your list that make you feel successful as a mom—because that’s what this is about!  Now, when a moment comes up where your kids need you, you’ll have a list of activities ready to go and not waste time trying to decide what to do together.

If you can implement just some of these rules and do so with determination, you will feel a huge shift in your ability to “mom” just a little better. You will feel more connected and present in the time that you are spending with your family. If you haven’t already, I highly recommend grabbing my book Moms Mean Business. My co-author Erin and I really dig deep into creating metrics for your business and your family so you feel successful on all fronts.

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Permission Granted: You Don’t Have to Make Your Passion Your Job

Guess what you get today? You get my permission (not that you really ever needed it). Ready? Permission granted. You are granted permission to free yourself from “shoulds”, the “woulds” and the “coulds” that can be thrown at us by our daily lives and the media. These things tend to have an uncanny power to stress us out and make us unhappy.

When you set goals for yourself, you probably create an action plan and get going right on it don’t you? I know you do! And sometimes, you find yourself doing it all right, following the plan & meeting the goals and yet you are missing something. There is some element missing from the equation that would’ve made that goal truly fulfilling and satisfying for you. Unfortunately, sometimes it can be nearly impossible to figure out what or why that is for you. The reality is things can always change mid-plan. So many different things can happen in the time frame that you are so focused on your plan that you are distracted and don’t even notice. Then, you wind up reaching your goals & benchmarks and realizing that you are still feeling unhappy.

Sometimes, I think a large part of this can be the alignment or misalignment with your purpose and your passion. Good jobs are financially stable, offer a predictable routine,  and have benefits like sick days, time off and insurance. But, what if you have a “good job” but your true passion is something completely different? What if you are a nurse who loves public speaking, a waitress who feels inspiration in writing short stories or a paralegal who thrives through her photography? All of the sudden it has become a very common theme that if someone is not doing work that they love, there is something wrong. Or worse, that you better feel a burning passion for what you do—or quit and search until you find it. There is a crazy pressure to measure yourself and your success based on whether you truly love your work or not.

Well I’m here to say it is not one thing at the expense of all else. There are certain passions or hobbies that will never make good money. There I said it. Some things were just never meant to be a profit-turning venture. You can enjoy your passions your off time, while also keeping you fulfilling, stable job. I say go for it.

Happiness and fulfillment aren’t always in the same package. I can’t feel right coaching someone starting a business doing something they love, but also isn’t necessarily something that will ever be a profitable, sensible business. Or if it could, it would no longer be any fun anymore. Starting a business means wearing many hats, of which have nothing to do with the thing you are passionate about—like bookkeeping, paying bills, keeping schedules, appointments, managing people, and budgets.

You do not have to leave your job, take off and quit just because your job isn’t fulfilling you. If your job is providing you with things that you value and need for your priorities, you can usually find some other way to use, develop or enjoy your passion. This will still allow you to leave the mark or legacy that matters to you—that’s how I would do it.

I’m lucky to be passionate about being a coach, but I also don’t have to be a breadwinner. I don’t have a weight on my shoulders to support my family financially. I chose this path so I could spend more time with my kids and family while also doing what I love. If I wanted to build a huge business and wanted to define success in terms of extreme growth and profitability, I could do that. But it would also cause a major cosmic shift in our family dynamics, which is most certainly not something I want—at least not right now. I like the time I am around to spend with my kids, responding to emergencies and being here for them while still getting to enjoy my business. When my kids are older, I may shift that to a more growth and profit driven model, but only when it doesn’t affect my ability to spend my time with my family.

So, you’re welcome. Stop listening to the media and getting pushed around that you are some sort of failure if you are just doing a job that suits you and your priorities right now. You are not a failure. You can do a job that serves your family and find ways to fulfill your passions elsewhere in your life. You get to be happy and successful on your terms.

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Why Striving for Work/Life Balance is Stupid

Did my title get your attention? Great! Now, I will admit it was a little bit misleading because it may seem very contradictory with my mission when you first hear it. You all know that I am a business coach especially for mother entrepreneurs, so when you hear me say striving for work life balance is stupid you may be like “wait, what?” But just hear me out!

In this blog, we’re going to revisit my humble beginnings in business and in motherhood. I like to refer to this time in my life as my “perfect storm”. I started out becoming both a business owner/coach and a mother at the same time. I know, right? Hello, stress! I went from just a person one day to so very much more in such a short time. And you guessed it: I struggled. Just like you probably have as well.

I have very high standards for my business as well as my family life. I had a business coach of my very own at the time kept and she kept noticing my unhealthy relationship my work/life balance. She noticed that I wasn’t living it. She noticed I complained for being unable to accept new clients by spending too much time on my baby. Yet, caring for my baby and living up to my own standards as a mother had become all encompassing for me.

My coach did something for me at that time that I will never forget and that has continued to help me grow even to this day. She forced me to have a terrible coaching call one day that ended in tears, and I thank her for that immensely. See, she knew my unhealthy attempt at balancing my life, so she scheduled a coaching session with me while I took my baby to the public pool. I thought she was crazy, but I obliged after much urging. That call was an absolute mess that I was constantly pausing trying to focus on both baby at the pool and the session at the same time. I wound up, unsurprisingly, in puddle of tears

I had been so heavily compartmentalizing my life and she could see that. I was trying desperately to keep my work life and my parenting life entirely separate and if they ever collided I got very upset. I felt like I couldn’t handle anything fully. I learned that day and every day since that life isn’t about balance. It isn’t about giving your best to both your business and your parenting at the same time and balancing them together. It’s about integration.

Focus on your priorities. I have 4 of my own. They are my well being, my marriage, my family, and my business. Rather than trying to evenly split myself between those 4 things, I integrate them together. It’s impossible to have precise balance between all your priorities.

What I mean is this: recently I had a speaking engagement in Las Vegas that happened to fall on the weekend of my wedding anniversary. So, instead of feeling the need to choose between a work engagement and my marriage/husband, I integrated them together. My husband came out with me to Las Vegas for the entire weekend before my speaking engagement on Monday. We spent the weekend together and made a mini-vacation out of the experience. Not to mention, we hiked and explored outside in the beautiful area outside of Las Vegas. In just that weekend, I integrated together my husband/marriage, my business and my wellbeing. All at the same time. And I loved every minute of it! Similarly, when I go for runs from home, I will often invite my son to run with me. This integrates my wellbeing and my family.

Instead of striving for balance, strive to integrate your priorities together. I promise you will feel more relaxed, fulfilled and you will have more time to truly devote to each one, individually and together.

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Is It Time To Fire Your Client?

nightmareToday we’re going to talk just a little bit about an intriguing yet somewhat scary question that I think we all need to approach from time to time, for the health of our business and our sanity: “How do you know when it’s time to fire your client?” Now I’m sure the term “nightmare client” rings a certain bell with just about all small business owners, but where is that line between putting up with such a client in order to bring home a paycheck and taking a firm stand in defense of self-respect? If you’re a mompreneur who is allowing a nightmare client to ruin your enthusiasm for your work, it’s time to take a look at some key indicators of when it just may be a good time to fire that client.

1. If a client is constantly expanding his or her demands and requests to include milestones outside the scope of the project that you agreed to, effectively squeezing every drop of blood out of that turnip, aka YOU… it might be time to fire your client.

2. Another indicator that it may be time to fire your client is if he or she is totally dominating your time. It is 100% up to you, as the CEO (Chief Everything Officer) of your business, to manage your time and ensure that you have the variety and type of work you have set forth in your business plan. Own your time… and consider firing a client who insists on dominating it.

3. If your client refuses to observe your boundaries, it may be time to fire that client. Boundaries are so, So, SO important in the life of a mompreneur and essential to keeping your priorities straight while getting what you want out of your business.

4. Another nightmare client is one who makes you feel awkward, uneasy, subservient, undervalued or unappreciated. We’re doing what we love, ladies, and we want to know it matters! Getting paid by someone who treats you poorly is one of the most demoralizing situations we can get ourselves into.

5. Finally, it is almost always time to fire the client who doesn’t want to pay you what you’re worth or what they owe you. If you have set forth clear expectations of “Here is what I do. Here is what you can expect. Here is how much it costs” and at the end of the day they want to negotiate and renegotiate, constantly questioning what you’re worth, chances are this is not the best client for you. It’s time. Oh, it’s time.

So this is just a small sampling of the potential nightmare clients out there you may be dealing with. Sometimes just revisiting your boundaries and ensuring clear communication will be enough to turn things around… but sometimes what we really need to say is: “You’re fired!”

I love to hear from you so leave me a comment!
Have you ever fired a client?
Tell me about your most nightmarish client and how you dealt with them.

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When to say YES

We-have-to-be-able-toWhen you start becoming more and more successful, when you start getting that visibility, when your online marketing begins working for you, when your business development has grown to the point where you’re getting lots of great client satisfaction and some great testimonials, the more opportunity comes your way and therefore, the more opportunities to say yes or no to things that may or may not work for you.  We talked about when to say no in a post I did on MomBiz.com last week but I promised we would also focus on when you can say yes and say yes powerfully.

 

As an entrepreneur, you have two buckets you need to be filling all the time.  The first bucket is your moneymaking bucket—that’s a given, right?  And the other one is your marketing bucket.  So whenever you are considering saying yes to an opportunity, the first step to making that decision is to determine which bucket—if any—the opportunity falls into.  Let’s take a look at these two buckets:

 

The moneymaking bucket is fairly simple, so we won’t spend much time on it.  If this opportunity is going to make you money, assuming you have more time than you have money and that you’ve checked it against your priorities, say yes!  This is a great opportunity you can say yes to with confidence.

 

Now the marketing bucket can be a slippery slope, so we have to be careful here.  There are going to be a lot more opportunities that don’t make you money than do.  It’s the potential for moneymaking that we have to evaluate.  Some investments are worthwhile and some are not.   Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help you decide whether an opportunity belongs in your marketing bucket:

 

  1. Does this opportunity put me smack dab in front of my target market?
  2. Is this opportunity going to keep me on-topic and consistent with my platform and my message?
  3. Is this opportunity going to position me as an expert?
  4. Is this opportunity fun, easy or convenient?

 

We have to be able to stand back and evaluate the multitude of opportunities, good and bad, that are so often dropped in our laps as mompreneurs. I want you to be equipped to make that decision based on what works best for you, what’s fun, what’s easy, what’s convenient, what makes you shine as an expert and what helps forward your topic, your platform and your message so that everybody knows what you’re about.  The opportunities that do that for you, placing you in front of your target market, speaking to the warm leads most likely to buy your service or your product—that’s when you want to say yes.  And that’s when you can say yes powerfully.

 

 

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Productivity Killers

Lara self sabotageLet me ask you a question.  What is your number one, biggest, baddest challenge as a mompreneur?  Don’t think about it too hard.  Just go with your gut.  Now it might be your first instinct to answer, “Laundry,” right?  Or “Checking all the items off the to-do list for today” or “Getting projects completed.”  Some days it may even be just getting a shower before we head out the door to pick up the kids as we morph into everyone’s favorite superhero—Super Mom.

Well, what all of these really boil down to is time, right?  And as much as most of us would really appreciate about four more hours per day so we can finally get things done, if we’re really, really honest with ourselves, how we manage the time we do have—the same 24 hours everybody else has—is singlehandedly enhancing or sabotaging our productivity.  Today we’re going to take a look at some productivity killers.

First let’s do the hard work of self-reflection and identify a couple of the main ways we sabotage our productivity, especially as it relates to our business practices.  And remember, I’m talking to myself here too.  I know what it is to struggle with these things in my own business.  But “knowing is half the battle,” right?  So here we go:

 

  1. How many times do we try to squish something ginormous and unspecific into a disproportionately tiny period of time?  Come on, we all do this, right?  “I am going to update my website this weekend.”  Oh really?  Is that every page?  Just what does that involve?  Now how qualified are you to even do all that needs done?  If you’re like me, maybe you know just enough about coding to be dangerous.  Now how plausible is it that you are going to be able to squeeze all of that into your weekend without help?  As noble as it may seem to accomplish a huge task with superhuman speed, we thwart even our best efforts when we fail to specify the scope and strategy of a project. 

 

  1. While we’re on the topic of weekends, what time frame would you say comprises your weekend?  Does it start at 5:00 Friday evening with the close of the workday?  10:00 at night, after the kids are tucked into bed and the noise in the house settles down to a dull roar?  Does your weekend really not start until after you’ve gotten your beauty sleep, had your coffee and read the paper Saturday morning?  And what about all the other things we cram into a typical weekend?  Soccer games, birthday parties, dance recitals—not to mention the mountain of laundry we weren’t able to get to during the week.  We set ourselves up for self-sabotage when we fail to specify the time frame we have to work with

 

Now these are only a couple of productivity killers and truth be told, there are many, but these are two of our biggest challenges, for sure.  Start to pay attention as you’re going about your daily routine and begin to take note of the times when you are doing these things.  Catch yourself in the act.  Being aware of the ways in which we sabotage ourselves is invaluable.

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Why the HP Folio 13 Ultrabook is Perfect for Mompreneurs {and a giveaway}

About three weeks ago as I was planning for the Mom Biz Retreat Denver, and I was struggling to choose which of my four computers to take with me to the Retreat. The choice was really between my 17 inch laptop, my netbook, and my iPad. I needed portability, great battery life, and a powerful processor that would allow me to do my usual multitasking, since we integrate using Social Media, browsing the web for brand and competitor research, and fun things like running videos and streaming music into the Retreat workshops.

The 17 inch laptop has a great processor and is pretty good at all the multitasking I do on a daily basis. But the thing weighs like, 100 pounds, and there was no way I wanted to drag it through airports, on shuttles and in and out of hotel rooms.

My iPad is fun, lightweight, great for streaming videos and music, but even with an added bluetooth keyboard, I find that I don’t go to my iPad when I need hardcore business functionality. It’s more of a fun tool for consuming entertainment and information than it is for producing content.

The netbook is certainly portable–same size as my iPad–but the processor is too weak to even do a decent job of running a Skype session with a client, much less Skyping while also tweeting or browsing the web at the same time. I’ll be passing that little computer onto one of my lucky children.

You guys hear me say all the time how much I rely on technology to give me the freedom and flexibility being a mom entrepreneur demands. I don’t dig technology just to be the coolest mom on the block. But when HP sent me the Folio 13 Ultrabook I’m typing on right now, I completely geeked out. mom biz coach mom entrepreneur laptop for mobility

Even in the box, the laptop only weighed about 5 pounds. I opened it up and found a very sleek, silver machine inside. It took me about 10 minutes to get it unwrapped, set up, and connected to my wireless router at home. Easy-peasy. And within about 20 minutes, I fell in love.

(Keep reading below so you fall in love, too, and learn how you could get one of these fantastic laptops in your deserving hands via my giveaway!)

 

Here’s why I love and highly recommend the Folio 13 for busy mompreneurs:

I sat it next to my iPad and a pair of kid’s scissors so you could get a feel for the size of it…pretty close to an iPad, but better.

  • It boots up faster than I can say to my kids: “No, you can’t play on Mom’s new computer. Go use one of the other laptops.” Seriously. With all my other computers, I have to fire them up and then go make myself a cup of coffee before they’re ready to do anything for me. Time isn’t something I have a lot of, so this is a big deal to me.
  • Call me schizophrenic. I don’t mind. I like to run Pandora in the background so I can listen to my favorite music while I’m blogging, and I’m always posting my Twitter and Facebook updates while I blog. My husband chides me for having “too many tabs in my browser open at once” since it slows down the processing speed so much that I may as well go make myself a snack to go along with that coffee I had earlier. Not so with this little laptop. I do it all, all at the same time, and my Folio 13 keeps on going. It’s been three weeks and it hasn’t crashed a single time. Ask me how many tabs I have open right now (and all the time): eleven. Normal, right?
  • It’s a full-size keyboard, unlike my iPad. I can type 70 wpm on a full-sized keyboard, but I only type about 25 wpm on my iPad. I can’t believe that something this size indeed feels full-sized.
  • Do you blog and tweet in the dark? Yeah, me too. I finally own a laptop that has a backlit keyboard! Cowabunga! I appreciate not having to hunt for the special keys in the dark when I need them.
  • I can stay unplugged for an entire day. At the Mom Biz Retreat in Denver last weekend, I left the power cord for the Folio 13 up in my suite and used my laptop to power my presentations during our all-day work sessions. I had plenty of battery life even when I plugged it back in late at night. Talk about flexibility.

In the interest of full disclosure, HP gave me this laptop to keep (thank you, HP!!!), since I meet the exact profile of the kind of person who could benefit from using it. If I didn’t like it, I wouldn’t have agreed to keep it and tell you about it. But they have me pegged, and I’m so fond of this little gem that I’m doing a giveaway to help one of you love it, too!

Here’s the deal:

You may have heard that Shelagh Cummins and I are returning to Caledon, Ontario in September to host the Mom Biz Retreat there. We are looking forward to returning to the city in which we first launched the Mom Biz Retreats one year ago! We know lots of you are talking about joining us there. So we’re going to give you an incentive: We will giveaway one HP Folio 13 Ultrabook just like this one to one of you who registers for the Retreat! We’re just that committed to helping you get what you need to be a successful mom and entrepreneur. Yeah!

Here’s how to grab one of only 50 seats offered at Mom Biz Retreat Ontario.

 

This giveaway is open to the mompreneurs who register for and attend the Mom Biz Retreat in Caledon, Ontario September 27-30. To qualify for the giveaway, register to attend the Retreat and then leave a comment below telling us you’ve registered and what your top business challenge is. We will cross-reference all comments with our registration list.

  • One entry per person.
  • Giveaway ends at 11pm ET on August 31st.
  • One winning registrant of the Mom Biz Retreat Ontario 2012 will be selected via Random.org.
  • The winner will have seven days to respond to my email (sent to the address you include when you leave your comment on the blog), after which an alternate winner will be chosen.

I’m grateful to HP for providing me the Folio 13! Now, how fast can you register so you can get a chance to win yours? GO!

 

 

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Ask: What else can I offer you?

There’s a well-known rule of thumb in business that says 20% of your customers will generate 80% of your income. The idea is that once they buy from you and have a great experience, they’ll return to buy from you again and again, and will prove to be your best customers.

That was great. What else do you have?

Think of a musical group—let’s say U2, for instance. Yes, they’re musicians, but they are also running a business. If I hear one of their songs on the radio and like it, I may download the album. As I fall in love with every one of the songs on that album, I may start looking around for more of their albums, collecting them over time. And I will likely buy tickets to a concert so I can see them live. And while I’m at the concert, I’ll be tempted to purchase tshirts, commemorative hats, books, DVDs, posters, etc.

My interest in one song that I can purchase for around a dollar from iTunes could eventually lead to me spending hundreds of dollars purchasing U2 songs and memorabilia over time, since they keep coming up with more stuff I want to have.

Build a product funnel that keeps them coming back for more.

That’s a perfect product funnel. I get something I want from a business for very little money and risk (the dollar download for one song), and because I’m happy with my purchase, I go looking for more things I can buy from that same business since I expect I’ll be pleased each time. The marketers for the band have carefully considered what a rabid U2 fan like me would likely want to spend her money on, and they create all sorts of offerings to feed my consumption frenzy. Sure, I have that cool black concert tshirt from 1995, but what about a hoodie, maybe with the new album cover featured on the back? Or a belt? A hat? Why not?

Many of the mom entrepreneurs I coach have come up with a great idea for a business, a product or service, but they’re stumped when it comes to generating enough sales. If they have sold what they have to all their existing customers, many small business owners assume the only way to make more money is to find new clients.

It’s much more expensive and time-consuming to find a new client than it is to sell something new to an existing client. After all, you already know how to contact your existing clients, they already know you and likely trust your business to deliver what they expect, and you already know a bit about what your existing clients need. It takes much less marketing to get your existing clients to buy new offerings than it does to get a total stranger to try you out for the first time.

My advice to you: Take a look at your existing customer base. What did they buy? What else could you create for them that would be incredibly valuable to a person that bought those items from you before? If you’re in the services business, can you package together a few of your solutions and offer them at a discount? Consider the time of year and create something that has seasonal interest (Summer Prep Kit, Back-to-School Guide, Mother’s Day Special, etc.). If you sell products, what else would your customers love to have from you? If you create custom notecards, what about holiday cards, or business cards, or post cards, or flyers and brochures?

By carefully considering what your existing customers have enjoyed purchasing from you and knowing what they need, you can create additional offerings that help fill out your product funnel. And when your product funnel is in place, you’ll always have something else to offer your best customers.

How is your product funnel looking? What can you add to it to satisfy the needs and wants of your best customers?

 

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Top 10 Signs You Need a Mompreneur Getaway

Sometimes busy mompreneurs can miss the signs that we need a break from all the chaos. Managing the homework and after-school events of our children, keeping up with the cooking and the laundry, connecting with our spouse or partner, meeting deadlines we have for client work and coming up with innovations for the growth of our businesses can be too much.

mom biz retreat for mompreneursTrying to innovate, create, re-invent, develop or establish goals for your business can be tough to do when you’re in the midst of daily life. In fact, I’ll tell you that I find it to be nearly impossible. So when I need to make some big changes, figure out something new, or develop or launch a new program or product, I sneak away from my everyday life for a weekend to get it done.

The Top 10 Signs You Need a Mompreneur Getaway

1. You work too much. You’re working longer hours and making less money than you want to. The lack of money causes you to work even harder in hopes of figuring out how to generate more income. It’s a self-perpetuating cycle you see no end to anytime soon.

2. Your kids can’t tell time. You want to be a good mom and you have visions of raising smart cookies, but your kids have learned from you that “Just a minute!” means the vast period of time between when they ask you for something and when you’re actually able to stop working to answer them. Accordingly, your kids are struggling in math.

3. You love the grocery store. Those friends of yours who get monthly (weekly?) spa treatments and massages? Well, they’re just different from you. They clearly don’t have 72 hours worth of client projects to get done in a mere 24 hours. You are a master multi-tasker and take your “me time” while shopping at the grocery store. . .while checking emails on your iPhone as you throw items in your cart.

4. Sleep is for the weak. Look–You learned when you had kids that sleep is something that you must learn to do without. Now that the kids sleep through the night, that’s the perfect time to get your work done. It’s so peaceful and quiet, and you feel so productive working until 3 am! Sure, it takes a while for the computer keyboard impressions to wear off your face since you often fall asleep on the keyboard (literally), but it’s no big deal.

5. Who has time to plan? Just like “me time,” planning is something for people who don’t have lots to do. Your clients keep you so busy with their deadlines that things like business planning and marketing strategies are luxuries you certainly don’t need to waste your time and energy on.

6. You forgot your husband’s name. Yes, yes, you can remember it when you try to, without even having to look at his driver’s license. And of course you love him. He can take care of himself for a few years while you manage the kids, the house and the business. And when that’s all handled, you’ll ask him out on a date or take a nice vacation together. Someday.

7. Your friends have removed you from speed dial. It’s okay. Really. They don’t understand what it takes to be a mom running a business. They can’t even understand why you bother working so hard. After all, they say, isn’t motherhood fulfilling enough?

8. You can’t figure out what to make for dinner. After making 1, 347, 216 decisions today about everything from whether your daughter could sign up for that hockey class after school to whether you should sign up for the flexible home heating program to how you were going to source the materials for your product when your favorite vendor went out of business, you just don’t have it in you to make one. more. decision. Dry cereal for dinner really is nutritious. Says so on the box.

9. You can’t remember why you thought this was such a good idea. You put on a good face when those family members and neighbors ask you why you want to run your business. But truthfully, you realize that your answers have just become a habit, just like saying “Hello?” when the phone rings. You remember thinking it was a really good idea at the time to start this business even though you’ve never been more exhausted in your life, even though you have more responsibilities on you than you’ve ever had, and even though you don’t have all the training and experience to know how to run a business in the first place. You know there must be a reason…Yawn…

10. It’s time. You’ve been working hard, setting goals, making plans, adding more and more and more items to your to-do list, but you just can’t ever seem to get everything done. You’re done with the “hobby” and ready to kick some butt. You know you’re capable of great success, and you’re committed to achieving it. And that includes taking care of yourself, your children, your spouse, your clients, your team, and your brand.

Come getaway with us in Denver June 7-10 at the Mom Biz Retreat.

We are 30 mompreneurs who come together to get things done while getting away from the daily life that keeps us stuck on the treadmill. Grab one of the remaining tickets now before they’re gone!

No more excuses, Mompreneurs! We understand you, and we are committed to you getting what you want. Let’s go!

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How do you spend your down time?

I focus a lot of my coaching and training on how to spend your time effectively as a mompreneur. Mostly, I teach you the ways to spend less time working and be more productive when you do work. A great Time Map is key for any mompreneur to manage her time, so she knows when she can work as well as when she has time to spend with her family (or by herself).

Today, I decided to share with you a result of how I schedule my work time and my down time. Since my Kindergartner doesn’t have school on Tuesday and Thursday afternoons, those hours make up our regular “together time.” We spend it going to parks, having playdates with friends, hanging out, and sometimes baking. You can see her shine when she gets her one-on-one time. It makes me happy, too.

Here’s a video of how we spent our down time together yesterday. It was a fun day.

 

How do you spend your down time? Share your comments below, or hey–make a video and send me the link! I’ll share it around my social networks for you :).

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