The Definition Of Insanity

Albert Einstein Quote“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” ~Albert Einstein

 

Sounds simple enough. Even if it’s not completely insane, I think we can all agree that doing the same thing over and over again and expecting something different is at the very least… well, not very bright, right? But yet, I can speak for myself when I say that in business, and especially in motherhood, there have been times I know I’ve been certifiable, according to this definition of insanity! We’ve all been there. Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we waste our time repeating actions and patterns that don’t yield the results we want?

 

Let’s take a look at some of the common places in our lives that we could be exhibiting signs of insanity, according to the definition above.

 

  1. Are you struggling with your kids during the same time of day, day after day after day? Before school, dinnertime, bedtime—you know the drill! I refer to it as “the witching hour.” Whenever it is at your house, you dread it, because the same thing goes down every. single. day.

 

  1. Are you having the same argument with your spouse or partner over and over and over again? You know how this one plays out. There is a topic that always sets you or your partner off, without fail. Someone says the word, and it’s all downhill from there—you say this, he says that, and the end result is nothing short of predictable.

 

  1. Are you marketing and networking like crazy but still not getting the sales, new customers, or more money that you desperately need? You’re in massive action. I mean you are just out there making it happen. But it’s not producing the results you’re after.

 

  1. Are you having a hard time finding time for your own health and well-being, even though you claim it’s one of your top priorities? You can just never seem to get enough sleep. It is impossible to find time to exercise. Date nights or girls’ weekends are a thing of the past. These are all things that are important to you, but for some reason or another, they’re just not happening.

 

These four areas are very common pitfalls for us mompreneurs to get stuck in. These are the areas where we tend to compromise some of our best skills, talents, knowledge, and expertise, in favor of getting stuck in a rut of routine that simply doesn’t serve us. So ladies, it’s not really about insanity, is it? Look around you. Look at those kids around your ankles that will one day be great big teenagers. Look at that brand new business that could one day be an empire. Things change. We need to be ready to change along with them.

 

I love to hear from you, so leave me a comment!

 

In which area are you exhibiting signs of insanity?

 

What patterns, habits, or routines are no longer serving you?

 

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Why We Settle and What We Can Do About It

Why We Settle and What We Can Do About ItSo we all know we do it, and you can read about some of the more common ways in which we settle HERE, but let’s devote some time to figuring out WHY we settle for less when we deserve what we really want, and then more importantly, what we can do about it.

 

1.  It’s familiar.  Some things bring a sort of sad satisfaction just because they are familiar.  It’s what we know how to do.  It’s predictable.  It’s comfortable.

 

2.  It’s a habit.  We go to work because it’s what we’ve always done.  We communicate with people the way we do because it’s simply how we do it.  There’s not much contemplation behind it.  We don’t even wonder if it’s satisfying.  We are creatures of habit.

 

3.  We don’t think.  Sometimes we put up with things just because we have never thought of doing them differently.

 

4.  We’re afraid.  Fear can be a motivator, but it also has the power to paralyze us in the face of potential change.  If you find yourself beginning a lot of sentences with “But what if…?” you may be settling for less out of fear.

 

5.  We have a mindset of scarcity.  Feeling that there is nothing better out there for us is a mindset of scarcity.  It keeps us stuck and thinking, “This is the best it’s going to be, so why bother trying anything else?”  That’s a bad place to be.

 

These are only a few of the reasons we settle for less than the best, so you may have others.  And regardless of what our reasons are, this is not where we want to stay.  So what can we do about it?  How can we start to shift from settling for less than we deserve to getting more of what we want?

 

1.  Move from a mindset of scarcity to one of abundance.  Instead of asking, “What if there’s nothing else out there for me?” we need to say, “What if there are a million better opportunities out there for me?”  Whichever you believe will be true for you.  Be motivated to action by the possibility of opportunity rather than paralyzed by fear of the unknown.

 

2.  Create conditions of satisfaction.  Fill in the blanks in the following statement that will make it true for yourself:  “I will be satisfied with ___________ if the following conditions are met: _____________________.”  What exactly will cause you to be satisfied with your business, your marriage, your family, your financial situation?  Be honest and specific.  And then keep those conditions of satisfaction where you can refer to them at all times, especially when making important decisions.

 

So go for the ideal.  Hold out for what you want in life.  There is nothing wrong or selfish about pushing for the best and making it happen.  Sticking to our standards and operating out of our priorities makes us better moms and better business owners.  Don’t we owe that to ourselves?

 

I love to hear from you, so leave me a comment!

 

What are your reasons for settling?

 

Do you have clear and specific conditions of satisfaction for your life and business? 

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