Today is a topic that we as mompreneurs don’t often prioritize like we know that we should: self-care.
This post is dedicated to those of us out there who people always ask “How do you get it all done?” Those of us who set goals for our families and businesses then consistently surpass them. We have it all together. We are overachieving and exceeding expectations in every area of our lives. It is also dedicated to those of us who want to be that mom, but just aren’t quite there yet. Of course, I’m being a little tongue in cheek here.
I am one of those mompreneurs who is often asked how I do it all. I have a lot to manage, admittedly, but I also prioritize myself and my self-care routine to make sure I am able to keep up with my commitments. When you are seen as successful in juggling all these things, you feel accomplished. But what falls by the wayside and causes the breakdowns is lack of self-care.
We have so much to balance and keep track of that we are too busy taking care of everyone and everything else that sometimes we forget about ourselves. All that energy that you are spending taking care of others has to come from somewhere. And, let me tell you, it comes out of your personal bank of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health. It is draining you—even if you sometimes don’t feel it.
When you start to feel the effects of your balancing act and are getting exhausted, it’s time to check in with yourself. Examine your self-care routine, because the only way to achieve or do more is by making sure that self-care doesn’t get compromised. I hear it already, you’re saying “I don’t have the time.” I get it. I really, really do. I get how much is on your plate due to your commitments and that it feels like there is no room left for self-care. But, I’m going to respectfully push back against you on this. I have the utmost respect for your commitments, but you are on the path to burnout if you are always last on your list of things to accomplish.
Establishing a self-care routine doesn’t mean that you have to find a way to block out an entire day for yourself once a week. Self-care can be very different for different people. Some people need a 60 minute weekly back massage. Others just want to have a standing appointment once a month to get their hair done and a mani/pedi. And then, some others like me, want to prioritize our exercise habits like running. Take the time and make the effort to put yourself on your calendar like any other appointment. Give yourself the opportunity to handle your self-care. You will refill your tank and stop draining all of the energy out every day caring for your family, business, house, and everything else you manage. They drain you. The only person who can refill that tank is you.
It is your job to make sure that you take care of yourself. It doesn’t have to be major, but even small things planned ahead in a routine will make a noticeable difference. Just getting yourself on a calendar as a priority can make you feel better—and do it consistently. Don’t let a breakdown or exhaustion happen before you prioritize taking care of yourself. Make it work for you. If you have a crazy load on certain days, then schedule that self-care on a day that you know you can really relax for a minute and care for you. Even just reading a book or taking a bath. Get something on your schedule to take care of you. I promise you will be better for it.