So we all know we do it, and you can read about some of the more common ways in which we settle HERE, but let’s devote some time to figuring out WHY we settle for less when we deserve what we really want, and then more importantly, what we can do about it.
1. It’s familiar. Some things bring a sort of sad satisfaction just because they are familiar. It’s what we know how to do. It’s predictable. It’s comfortable.
2. It’s a habit. We go to work because it’s what we’ve always done. We communicate with people the way we do because it’s simply how we do it. There’s not much contemplation behind it. We don’t even wonder if it’s satisfying. We are creatures of habit.
3. We don’t think. Sometimes we put up with things just because we have never thought of doing them differently.
4. We’re afraid. Fear can be a motivator, but it also has the power to paralyze us in the face of potential change. If you find yourself beginning a lot of sentences with “But what if…?” you may be settling for less out of fear.
5. We have a mindset of scarcity. Feeling that there is nothing better out there for us is a mindset of scarcity. It keeps us stuck and thinking, “This is the best it’s going to be, so why bother trying anything else?” That’s a bad place to be.
These are only a few of the reasons we settle for less than the best, so you may have others. And regardless of what our reasons are, this is not where we want to stay. So what can we do about it? How can we start to shift from settling for less than we deserve to getting more of what we want?
1. Move from a mindset of scarcity to one of abundance. Instead of asking, “What if there’s nothing else out there for me?” we need to say, “What if there are a million better opportunities out there for me?” Whichever you believe will be true for you. Be motivated to action by the possibility of opportunity rather than paralyzed by fear of the unknown.
2. Create conditions of satisfaction. Fill in the blanks in the following statement that will make it true for yourself: “I will be satisfied with ___________ if the following conditions are met: _____________________.” What exactly will cause you to be satisfied with your business, your marriage, your family, your financial situation? Be honest and specific. And then keep those conditions of satisfaction where you can refer to them at all times, especially when making important decisions.
So go for the ideal. Hold out for what you want in life. There is nothing wrong or selfish about pushing for the best and making it happen. Sticking to our standards and operating out of our priorities makes us better moms and better business owners. Don’t we owe that to ourselves?
I love to hear from you, so leave me a comment!
What are your reasons for settling?
Do you have clear and specific conditions of satisfaction for your life and business?