So we tackled the question of “Is it time to fire your client?” and now it’s time to do the hard work of asking “Why?” Why is this happening? Why have I attracted these nightmare clients? Why am I enduring a situation that is not satisfying? And what can I do about it? Let’s take a look at that, shall we?
Here are some things to think about:
- How is your self-esteem? What sort of thoughts or beliefs do you have about yourself that are allowing you to be treated in a way that isn’t satisfying to you? Are you feeling unworthy? Are you feeling that you don’t deserve to be more demanding or to speak up about how things go? Where did you learn that behavior? Chances are you’re doing it somewhere else in your life too. Check your self-esteem.
- How are your conditions of satisfaction? If you just said, “Conditions of satisfaction… What’s that?” stick around and let’s hash this out for a moment. Conditions of satisfaction are the code by which you live. Are you happy to travel for work or do you need to be able to work from home? What are your hours? Do you work weekends? How much money per hour do you need to make in order to not only make ends meet, but to feel like you’re being paid what you’re worth? These are all conditions of satisfaction. If you don’t have them, get them.
- How is your business plan? If you don’t have a pretty good idea of where you’re headed and where you need to go, you might find yourself accepting clients that fall well outside your ideal of what it is you want to be doing, just to make some money, because you never really defined for yourself what fulfills you.
- How is your communication? If you are not clearly communicating your needs and wants and expectations to your clients and you’re just hoping that somebody will pay you when the job’s done, chances are you are setting yourself up for that nightmare client.
My job as a coach is to remind you that you have the choice to be fulfilled and satisfied. You deserve it and you can create it if you are willing to stand your ground. So check your self-esteem, set those conditions of satisfaction, nail down your business plan and communicate those boundaries clearly. If you do, I promise you that you’ll begin to attract fewer nightmare clients and more dream clients.
I love to hear from you so leave me a comment!
Are you attracting nightmare clients?
What are you going to do about it?