I just returned from hosting Mom Biz Retreat in Denver last weekend, and as usual when I experience something wonderful, I always want to share it with everyone I know.
But I’ve been stuck for days trying to figure out how to summarize all that happened in that powerful weekend. I initially thought I’d write a sort of journal entry that touched on everything we did over the three nights and three days together. But telling you all about the amazing food we ate, the fantastic spa treatments we received, the powerful work sessions we had and the deep conversations that kept us up too late each night won’t capture the essence of the Retreat experience.
So let me pull back the curtain and tell you what really happens at the Mom Biz Retreat.
We are small.
There are so many live events out there that aim to be the most popular. They need 300, 500, or 1,000 attendees to consider themselves successful. Our mission is to provide an intimate, close-knit group of women who really get to know each other and reach out to support each other. We listen to each woman share her goals, her plans, her fears. We ask probing questions. We offer honest feedback. With a tiny group of women, no one can get lost or left out. We are able to hold each and every participant in the Retreats responsible for the goals she sets for herself for the weekend. We get things done.
We make a few confessions.
When girls gather, work together all day, then play together all evening, we tend to open up and share more than we would in a big group. Trusting bonds are formed. We see ourselves in each other. We understand how each other feels. We realize how some of our limiting beliefs are keeping us from being successful, from playing a bigger game, or from getting what we really want.
It’s amazing how freeing it can be to admit the limiting beliefs we have about ourselves, beliefs like:
- “I really should just be happy with my corporate job since I make plenty of money.”
- “I’m embarrassed about how much money I make because it means I’m working too much and neglecting my kids.”
- “In my heart I want to help everybody, not just rich people, so I have to keep my fees low.”
- “How can I call myself an expert when I don’t have a fraction of the clients, followers, or fans that x——— does?”
- “Money is tight, so I have to keep doing work I hate in order to make ends meet.”
- “I’m drowning in work right now, but I can’t outsource anything because it’s too hard to explain what I do.”
We make big plans.
Once we admit those scary beliefs that are keeping us down, we have the golden opportunity to let go of them and replace them with awesome, huge, inspiring beliefs. We encourage each other to try something we didn’t think we could. We ask each other to ask for more. We practice declaring who we are, what we do, who we serve and why it matters. We raise our rates and charge what we’re really worth. We ask for help in creating the support structures and systems that allow us to accomplish our dreams.
We leave empowered and confident.
We girls like to lift each other up. We like to help each other. How can you not feel more confident when you’ve shared your big, hairy, scary fears with a group of women business owners who have also shared theirs, and who still think you’re amazing anyway?
Shelagh and I have created the kind of event we want to attend ourselves. It’s an honor to get to spend a weekend amidst women committed to running a business and a family according to their own definition of success.
Is it time for you to let go of those limiting beliefs that are keeping you from achieving your goals? What could you do with a strong, honest, powerful network of women entrepreneurs who you know have your back? Grab your seat now before they’re all gone: www.mombizretreat.com and click on Ontario for the next Retreat coming up in September.