WAHMs: Is it time to give up on balance?

I’ve been having some great conversations with mompreneurs and work at home moms on the topic of “balance” lately, and specifically how it relates to the goal of work/life balance.

Seems like we’ve spent the last decade or so trying to achieve this balance thing, but it may be a concept whose time has past. Many think it’s unachievable, or at the very least, that it can be achieved but not sustained. Is balance what we really want? Do we want to spend equal time with work and equal time with family?

I know that certain words are “trigger words” or hot buttons for some people, but I think the idea of balance is basically a good one. I think that the more we’ve been working towards it, though, the more we are learning that there are other ways to define how we want our lives as moms and business owners to look.

When I think of words that capture how I want my life as a mom entrepreneur coach to look, these are some of the words that come to mind:

INTEGRATION

FLEXIBILITY

FULFILLMENT

RHYTHMS

SEASONS

I make my work a fully-integrated part of my life. That doesn’t mean I don’t set boundaries around it, just that I include it as part of who I am and what I love to do. How much and when I work varies from time to time, based on priorities, energy levels, moods, seasons… But my commitment to my work and my family stays the same.

What about you? Is there a phrase or concept you’re striving for that is more descriptive than “work/life balance”? How do you see your roles as mom and business owner? Are they one in the same or separate somehow? Please leave a comment below.

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2 comments

  1. Hi. I found your post via twitter. I do not think it’s time to give up on life balance, I think it’s time we rethink how we define how we look at balance. At a high level, I define life balance as a need to balance my authentic self (Me Time) with all the other things that demand my time, attention, and energy. It’s about carving out time for me, it’s about putting my oxygen mask on first, and I hope all moms continue (or if needed, start) to practice self care and to put themselves on the top of their priority lists. I’d love to collaborate with you because you are doing amazing work for moms. Now I’m off to bake brownies w/ my kids. 🙂
    .-= Stacey / Create a Balance for Moms´s last blog ..Why Dream? =-.

  2. Stacey–

    Thanks for connecting and for your thoughtful comment. I have no problem agreeing with you. Often times we get hung up on the syntax but are really saying the same things. It’s clear that your definition of balance is definitely skewed in (what I consider to be) the right direction: self-care first, then caring for the kids. For me, self-care includes my work. I need to work like I need to breathe. It’s just that way for me. So constantly having to put work on one side of the teeter-totter and family on the other just doesn’t make sense to me. I don’t like having to choose “either one or the other” because I lose something on both sides. Keeping them perfectly in balance so I can have both happens only in brief moments. Most often, I am giving more of my time to one or the other, but when I get away from the “either/or” balancing act and instead simply include all of the parts of my life and let them co-exist, then things really do feel like they’re in balance for me. And I can be a happy mama.

    I’d love to collaborate too…Please email me some good times/days for you in the next week or two!

    Take care,
    Lara